Reader Poll Results: What Advice Would You Give To Your 10-Years-Younger Self?

Wise advice at any age.

In my effort to include other people’s balls on ABL, I conducted a Reader Poll on *Facebook, which asked: What advice would you give to your 10-years-younger self?

If you want to see a list of my favorite responses (Can I just say you guys rule?), head over here. But in this article, I’ll focus on the patterns that emerged in your answers and what they mean for all of us.

Here are the 8 categories and themes represented in your answers:

The top 3 most common answers, including those most “liked” by others, fell into the following categories:

1st Place: Be yourself. Trust your intuition. Speak your Truth.

Tied for 2nd Place: Career and education advice & Dating/ marriage/ sex advice

3rd Place: How to deal with life’s sh*t storms and setbacks

So what can we take away from these results?

First, that our shared, universal, life-long struggle is to uncover who we truly are and honor whatever it is we find. How beautiful yet tragic it is that we are destined to spend our lifetimes recovering our lost Truth. This is a deeply spiritual journey we all must take, and like all spiritual journeys, you’ll need to pack your biggest set of balls.

Second, there are two decisions that have a profound effect on our satisfaction with life: our work and our relationships. Humans need something to do and someone to love, because that’s what our hearts and minds were designed for. If you majorly screwed up in one of these areas, that’s okay– it’s how we learn. But the point is, have you really learned the lessons? (Hint: You know you’ve learned a lesson if your behaviors have changed.)

Third, I think we can all agree that how you handle and process life’s sh*t storms and setbacks determines what your future holds. If you can get good at resilience, and master the art of being better, not bitter, then no tragedy has the power to define you. You will officially be a bad ass! (You know, in an enlightened, self-actualized way.)

In the coming weeks I’ll thoroughly addressing all four of these top concerns. But for today, consider this article a call to action. A battle cry for the soul.  A reminder that it is never too late to be who we might have been, if we’ve got the guts to take ourselves there. Because what’s the point of giving our younger selves advice if we’re not taking it now?

Your Turn: How have you grown in the past 10 years? In what ways would you like to grow over your next 10 years?


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4 Responses to Reader Poll Results: What Advice Would You Give To Your 10-Years-Younger Self?

  1. Steph says:

    This was very timely for me in a “full circle” type of way. 10 years ago I was about to finish grad school with an MA degree. Instead of continuing on for my PhD as planned, I’d recently found out my application was rejected and that in a little over a month I would be landing face first into the real world.
    10 years later I have poured my heart and soul into my chosen career path. I believe I have learned and grown as much as I can without completely losing my sanity. I know it is time for something different but, as was true 10 years earlier, I don’t know exactly what the next few months will bring, and that lack of control scares me. But I also feel more confident than I did back then that I will be able to handle it, whatever “it” turns out to be.

    • Kimberly says:

      Funny, I feel a little like I’m back where I was 10 years ago as well. But I hear you on being more confident this time around. It’s something about being in your 30′s, I think. (Or maybe just NOT being in your 20′s– what a weird, crazy, ridiculous time.)

      Also, I didn’t know you’d applied to a PhD program! Imagine how different your life would have been had you gone that route…

  2. Shai Smith says:

    Love this! Ten years ago I was an almost-18-year-old girl who walked away from her dreams to marry her high school sweetheart. A high school sweetheart who turned out to be less-than-stellar – we lasted five years.

    Today, I’m a very independent go-getter absolutely making up for lost time while raising our daughter (and my 2 year old son). <3 I've also happily remarried someone who respects me enough to keep his pants on, and not only *has* realistic goals, but takes steps every day towards achieving them. :P

    • Kimberly says:

      Hi Shai! Gotta say…I’m totally in awe of all that you do– you run a small business, go to school, AND have kids? Damn, woman! The world is grateful for your past, as imperfect as it was…because it gave us you, as you are now.

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